3 ways to answer pregnancy questions over the holidays
Dealing with in-laws during the holidays is hard enough, but dealing with in-laws who ask questions about when you’re going to have kids is even worse.
But in-laws and extended family don’t deserve all the blame. The question can come from nearly anyone, and it hurts every time. It’s especially hard around the holidays when it seems like every conversation always gravitates back to relationships, family and kids.
Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California (RMANorCal), headquartered in San Francisco with a satellite office in Palo Alto, wants to help. We came up with a few responses to the question, ‘when are you going to get pregnant,’ so you can be prepared this holiday season. Here are a few things you can try.
Bringing humor into the situation can be disarming and lessen the tension, plus no one will notice that you’re actually deflecting. Try one of these responses out for size:
- I already have a kid (refer to your partner).
- Oh don’t worry, we are very busy trying!
- I’m not sure – is there an app for that?
- As soon as I figure out how it’s done. Any suggestions?
- Let me check – what about September 16 at 9 pm?
- No clue, but I’m already starting a babysitting list. You in?
Give a short response.
Giving a direct answer often ends the questioning then and there. Why not try one of these?
- Only time will tell!
- I wish I knew!
- I’m hoping one day soon!
- I have no idea – we’re trying to figure that out now.
The more people talk about infertility, the less stigmatized the topic will be, and the more women and men can get the help they need. So if you are ready, why not tell the truth?
- That’s something I can’t answer because I don’t know. We are in the process of seeing a fertility doctor. Thanks for asking.
- Getting pregnant is actually hard work, and infertility affects more than 10 percent of the population.
- What a loaded question! I can’t tell you exactly when it will happen because we’ve been trying, and we’ve had no luck. We’re seeking medical treatment.
- Well, we’re having trouble, and we’re not alone. One in eight couples in this country can’t conceive on their own.
“Going through infertility treatment can be incredibly emotional, especially when you feel like people don’t understand or are being insensitive to your struggle,” says Dr. Morin. “Try to remember that you’re not alone and know that we’re here to support you on your journey.”
However you choose to handle the ‘kids question’ this holiday season, keeping a few of these responses in your back pocket might just make an uncomfortable situation a little bit easier.
Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California is a leading infertility center focused on science, success and support. If you or your partner are struggling with infertility, book a consultation to meet with Dr. Kort or Dr. Morin today.