Options For LGBTQ


At Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California, we offer individualized fertility care to everyone who walks through our doors, regardless of who they love.

We are proud to help build families of all shapes and sizes, and our care is personal, intimate, respectful and science-driven, always focused on the same thing: your success.

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Congratulations on your decision to pursue fatherhood! At Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California, we are dedicated to helping you navigate your path to having a family.

Gay men have the option of egg or embryo donation combined with gestational surrogacy. While it’s only possible to use the sperm from one man to fertilize any given egg, some gay couples choose to do a split insemination, in which half of the eggs get put with one man’s sperm and the other half are put with the other man’s sperm.

We recognize this process requires a considerable investment of time, energy, and money, not only for the medical treatment but also for the legal contracts, agency fees, and other expenses for the involved parties. We can help develop a customized treatment plan that meets your family’s needs, and our team has the experience necessary to help you every step of the way.

Take the next step toward parenthood. Speak to an Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California patient liaison today, 415-603-6999.



A gestational surrogate, also called a gestational carrier, is a woman who carries a pregnancy for a patient or couple who cannot do so for themselves. There is no genetic tie between the gestational carrier and the pregnancy she is carrying.

At Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California, your care team will help guide you through your options for selecting the right surrogate for your family. Some may choose to use a friend or relative to carry the pregnancy, while others prefer using a reputable agency to match with a compassionate woman willing to become a gestational carrier.

There are many important legal issues to consider when using a gestational carrier, including the laws governing these relationships. As parental rights and obligations can vary from state to state, we recommend working with an experienced attorney that specializes in third party reproduction.

At Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California, we only work with carriers from surrogacy-friendly states to assure that legal parentage is established without question.  Our staff can assist you in finding the legal professionals and resources necessary to make the best family building decisions.

To prevent a delay once a gestational carrier has been approved, some gay couples choose to simultaneously look for an egg or embryo donor, or match with an egg donor first so that embryos can be created and ready for transfer as soon as the carrier is ready.



There are several options available when looking for an egg or embryo donor, usually with an anonymous egg donor, a known egg donor (family or friend), or embryo donation. Egg donation allows for a genetic link to the child when using you or your partner’s sperm to fertilize the egg, while embryo donation is an anonymous gift of embryos previously created by another couple undergoing IVF. The embryos have no genetic tie to either the gestational surrogate carrying the pregnancy, or to you, the intended parent(s).

Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California’s Ovatures Egg Donation Program is a reputable anonymous egg donation program that offers exceptional live birth rates, along with a short donor and recipient matching process. Ovatures egg donors undergo an extensive medical, genetic and psychological screening process using standards established by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM).

We have high standards for our donors, and we also work with egg donors from several trusted agencies across the United States who have been screened by our specialists for their quality standards and patient care. If you decide to work with an outside agency, we will screen the donor to the same standards as one from our own program to ensure a perfect match.

Patients can also work with a donor egg bank to use frozen eggs. Using a frozen egg bank may shorten the time spent in the egg donor matching process, as the donors have already cycled and the eggs are immediately available. But this particular process allows you to choose your own egg donor match from a data bank.

Our Embryo Donation Program was established by couples who have completed their own families and given their remaining embryos to Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California with the intent of matching them to hopeful parents. Our embryo and recipient matching process is similar to the egg donation process, and will allow you to review detailed profiles of donors.

Ultimately, every path is different, whether you choose to pursue an anonymous egg donor, a known egg donor, or embryo donation. Whatever the choice, the Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California care team is here to support your decisions and facilitate a successful outcome.



An essential step in the family building process for gay men. IVF allows gay men to participate in the genetic makeup of their offspring.

The IVF – donor egg – gestational carrier process is a series of steps in which eggs are removed from one woman, put with sperm to create embryos, and then get implanted back in another woman’s uterus.

Patients may also elect to do comprehensive chromosome screening (CCS), which involves testing whether an embryo has the correct number of chromosomes and is capable of developing into a healthy pregnancy.

In addition to testing the health of the embryo by looking at 22 chromosomes, CCS also tests the sex chromosome, making it possible to determine whether a particular embryo is male or female. Some patients prefer to know this information and to act on it when choosing which embryo to transfer.

The team at Reproductive Medicine Associates of Northern California will work with both your matched egg donor and gestational carrier to coordinate all aspects of the IVF treatment cycle and will communicate with you, the intended parents, to keep you informed.



Gay couples have several options to consider when deciding which fertilization methods are best for their family building plans. While it’s only possible to use the sperm from one man to fertilize any given egg, some gay couples choose to do a split insemination, in which half of the eggs are put with one man’s sperm and the other half are put with the other man’s sperm.

Intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI) is a common fertilization treatment method used during an IVF cycle which may increase the number of eggs fertilized over the traditional fertilization process. ICSI is a procedure where one sperm is placed directly with the egg by an embryologist. After the egg has been injected with the sperm, the embryologist will observe the egg over the next day. If fertilization occurs and the embryo matures properly, it will be transferred into your gestational carrier’s uterus or cryopreserved for later use.

For more information or to learn more about your LGBTQ family building options in San Francisco, please contact us today.